Bad Behavior

I keep thinking about my son Z and the fact his teacher wants to have him repeat second grade again. I feel like I am failing him. It is my job to help him grow up, teach him how to work on his own, be more independent. A lot of times when I tell him he did something wrong, he runs off crying to his room and locks the door. It he will come out. I usually end up going in and talking to him about the incident. His younger brother, J, pretty much does the same.

Once in a while, when they get in trouble and I tell them they can't do something like watch a movey or I turn the tv off because they are not behaving, which ever one it is, starts throwing things off the table and then runs to their room. When I get in there, I spank them and tell them to stay in there room until I say otherwise. Then they scream as loud as they can and bang on the door.

This really frustrates me because I don't know how to react to this behavior. If I go in again and spank him again, he reacts with more of the same. If I try and talk to him, he won't have any of it.

I know that it is my fault he acts this way. If I had been a better parent he wouldn't react this way. I just wish I knew how to fix problem and get him back on track. Maybe it is too late and he will have problems the rest of his life because of me.

I don't know anymore. Most the time I feel helpless.

I need a day off.